Perfectionism Kills...7 Things You Can do to Help It
What are you trying to do?
For the last 3 times I've started to write a particular article and then stopped, restarted, then stopped again. The reason?.. it just doesn't look right, it's not how I had it in my head, it's not... perfect.
It wasn't till I was out walking the dog that it hit me, I was stuck in one of those really dangerous spots, that point where you are trying to be perfect in the hope that it will achieve great things when really your achieving nothing but rework and making yourself frustrated. Believe or not, perfectionism brings progress both personally and in business to a sudden halt. Think about it, all the time you are trying to come up with the perfect solution, the perfect plan nothing is actually happening , no one is executing this perfect plan that doesn't exist, steps aren't being taken, budgets not assigned.. so why do it?
A good plan, violently executed now, is better than a perfect plan next weekby Gen. George S. Patton
It's funny, I talk to a lot of people about not trying to get things perfect that 80% is more than good enough, in fact some of the best plans, decisions and even battles have happens on only 30-40% of the information, which may sound scary but the reality is you are more likely to have the important, critical points in that 30-40% than you believe. Instinctively we put the important stuff in 1st, then we try and dress it up with all the supporting (and sometimes non supporting) window dressing.
Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it's a shield.by Brene Brown
Don't get me wrong, I wanted to write the best article I could, I always do and I want you to do your very best work but.. for goodness sake please don't try to be perfect! Which I guess is unfair as it can obviously be a real issue and it's not as easy as just throwing a switch.
Perfectionism actually isn't all that healthy, for a start think about the stress you put on yourself, not to mention others, to be or to deliver perfect? all that self imposed stress over time does many things but one of those is to actually effect your health, your blood pressure goes up quicker, you are more prone to stomach ulcers and mouth ulcers, thinning hair, it could literally kill you.
While you are still slogging away trying to be perfect your friends are out having fun!
Some things you can do
There are of course things you can do to try and curb the perfectionism and giving friends or colleagues permission to call you out on it is a great step, here are some more
- Recognise perfection as a problem. ...
- Set realistic goals for you. ...
- Look for the positives in yourself and your life. ...
- Love yourself in your entirety, including your imperfections. ...
- Embrace your uniqueness. ...
- Stop procrastinating. ...
- Think of mistakes as lessons.
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